Houston thrives on community connections. When you pull away from people and activities that bring joy, something significant happens.

• Withdrawing from Social Plans: You cancel events you once looked forward to—game nights, cultural celebrations, family dinners—leaving invitations unanswered.
• Unreachable by Friends and Family: You don’t respond to texts or calls, skip work gatherings and religious services and feel like an outsider even in familiar settings.
• Avoidance of Community Activities: You quit your sports league, stop attending neighborhood meetups and rarely participate in anything outside work.

When these patterns continue—if you haven’t enjoyed social time in weeks, if physical distance turns into emotional distance—it becomes harder to reconnect, yet reaching out is exactly what you need most.

Warning Sign #3: Your Emotions Feel Out of Control

It’s normal to have ups and downs but when your emotional responses become extreme, unpredictable or flat, it’s a warning that you may need support.

You might find that everyday frustrations—like Houston traffic—spark rage instead of mild annoyance or that tears come out of nowhere. One moment you feel on top of the world; the next you’re overwhelmed with despair. At other times, you may feel emotionally numb, as if nothing brings joy and your feelings are “flat” or “grey,” cutting you off from loved ones who once comforted you.

When even small setbacks feel catastrophic and common Houston stressors—flooding, heat or gridlock—trigger debilitating anxiety, every emotion can seem impossible to manage.

If you notice your reactions startling even yourself or if these patterns persist for more than two weeks and begin to disrupt work, relationships or safety, it’s time to seek professional help.

What Makes Emotions Harder to Handle Here

Our city creates unique emotional triggers. Hurricane season anxiety affects thousands annually. Extreme weather disrupts moods. Economic uncertainty in our energy-dependent economy adds extra strain.

Do your emotions match the situation? Or do small problems feel like major disasters?

Mental health professionals note that disproportionate emotional responses often signal underlying conditions. If minor workplace frustrations trigger overwhelming reactions or if everyday Houston challenges create debilitating anxiety, your emotional regulation may need support.

Warning: If emotional responses interfere with work, relationships or safety for more than two weeks, get professional support.

Warning Sign #4: Basic Self-Care Feels Impossible

When showering, dressing or even brushing your teeth feels like climbing a mountain, your mind and body are signaling that they need support. This isn’t laziness—it’s a red flag that demands compassion, not shame.

Symptoms and What They Mean

• Personal Care Breakdown: Tasks you once took for granted—showering, changing clothes daily, basic grooming—become overwhelming.
• Nutrition and Health Neglect: You either forget to eat or overeat; fast food replaces balanced meals; medical and dental appointments slide off your calendar; physical symptoms go unchecked.
• Everyday Responsibilities Collapse: Routine work tasks turn into missed deadlines and frequent sick days; home life unravels with unpaid bills, chores left undone and car maintenance ignored; relationships suffer as calls go unanswered and important dates are forgotten.

Ask yourself: When did you last feel proud of taking care of yourself? If you can’t remember—or if you realize you’ve worn the same outfit for days or lived on convenience-store snacks—these are genuine signals from your body that your mental health needs attention. If getting dressed feels like an achievement, reach out for help—you deserve care and understanding.

Warning Sign #5: Substances Become Your Emotional Band-Aid

Using alcohol, drugs or other substances to manage emotions creates dangerous patterns. Houston’s social environment makes this easy to miss.

• Alcohol as Coping Method: Drinking alone each evening to “unwind,” needing alcohol to feel social or confident, regularly consuming more than planned or using drinks to fall asleep or manage anxiety.
• Prescription Medications as Crutch: Taking medications more frequently than prescribed, using someone else’s prescriptions or feeling unable to function without them.
• Other Substances as Escape: Relying on daily marijuana to manage stress, excessive caffeine or energy drinks for a boost or recreational drugs to escape difficult emotions rather than address underlying issues.

When these patterns shift from occasional relief to your primary way of coping—especially if you’ve tried to cut back and can’t—it’s a clear signal that professional support is needed.

Why Substance Use Patterns Are Easy to Miss Here

After-work happy hours, festival drinking and alcohol-fueled networking are woven into Houston’s social fabric. At the same time, our abundant medical centers make prescription access—and sometimes informal sharing—effortlessly available. Together, these norms can mask when casual use slips into a harmful coping mechanism.

Are you using substances to cope with feelings or simply to enhance good times? According to the 2023 Harris County Public Health Assessment, 34% of residents reported increasing alcohol consumption during stressful periods. What begins as a single glass of wine to “decompress” can escalate until you try to stop and discover you can’t manage stress—or sleep—without substances.

Danger Signs

• Daily or obsessive thoughts about substances
• Inability to handle stress without alcohol, drugs or prescription meds
• Loved ones expressing concern about your use
• Legal, work or relationship problems stemming from substance use

Pro Tip: Substances often mask underlying emotional pain while creating new challenges. You deserve care for both the substance use and the feelings driving it—healing is possible.

When to Seek Help Immediately

Reach out for professional support if you experience any of these patterns for more than two weeks, if your feelings interfere with your work, relationships or safety or if you ever think about harming yourself. Remember: seeking help is a courageous act of self-care, not a sign of weakness.

In crisis right now? Call 988 for free, confidential, 24/7 support.

Getting Help in Houston: Your Options

When you’re ready to reach out, remember that help is available 24/7, free and confidential.

Immediate Crisis Support

The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (988) offers free, judgment-free, one-on-one support any time of day or night. Counselors are available around the clock to listen and connect you with local resources. You can also text HOME to 741741 to reach the Crisis Text Line, where trained volunteers will guide you through overwhelming moments. For county-specific assistance, call the Harris County Mental Health Crisis line at (713) 970-7000.

Take Action Today: Your Mental Health Roadmap

Small steps build momentum. If you’re noticing warning signs:

1. Today: Call your primary care doctor, reach out to one trusted friend or family member and take a free mental-health screening.
2. This Week: Schedule an appointment with a mental-health professional, research local support groups and ask your employer about any Employee Assistance Programs.
3. This Month: Attend your first therapy or support-group session, start building a network of understanding people and practice stress-management techniques that work for you.

Supporting Someone Else

If you’re worried about a friend or loved one, choose a private setting and use “I” statements: “I’ve noticed you seem stressed lately and I care about you.” Listen without judgment, offer specific help—“Can I drive you to an appointment?”—and avoid minimizations like “Just think positive.”

Mental-health challenges are medical conditions that respond well to treatment. You deserve support, compassion and professional care. Call 988 for immediate assistance or visit hcmhd.org to explore Houston-area resources. Don’t wait—take that first step today.

Bottom Line

Recognizing and responding to early mental-health warning signs can prevent crises before they escalate. In Houston’s high-stress environment—marked by extreme weather, economic uncertainty and social norms that normalize substances—sleep disturbances, social withdrawal, emotional volatility, neglected self-care and reliance on alcohol or drugs each serve as critical alerts.

Track your symptoms, lean on trusted resources and take small steps today: reach out, schedule support and build routines that prioritize your well-being. You deserve compassion and professional care—don’t wait to get help.

Authored By

Shebna N Osanmoh I, PMHNP-BC

Jun 20, 2025

Shebna N Osanmoh is a board-certified Psychiatric Mental Health Nurse Practitioner with extensive experience across the mental health spectrum. Holding a Master’s in Psychiatric/Mental Health Nursing from Walden University, Shebna provides compassionate, culturally sensitive care for a wide range of mental health conditions, emphasizing holistic and individualized treatment approaches to support patients in their wellness journey.